Well, because for one thing let's face it, waaaaaaaahhhhhh, it's hard, it really is. It takes effort and focus and daily baby steps towards accomplishing said change. So that's the Number 1 reason why most people don't: we've been taught to stay in line and follow rules and go to work 40 hrs a week at a job we despise just to cover our monthly nut, hang out at the same bars, play the same video games, binge watch the same shit under a different title, eat the same terrible food, post to and spend hours down rabbitholes of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, YouTube.....sorry, not trying to lay it on thick, but you need to REALLY see the big picture here. We are DROWNING in distraction, developed by a media, government, society, that only has one purpose in mind, and that is to keep us that way. Robots, zombies, good little girls and boys, to do what they want, which is to dumb us down, keep us fat, lazy, uncaring, unaware, and most of all.......consuming constantly whatever it is they are dishing out.
We are SO bogged down by everything external that it keeps us from focusing on where the REAL growth will ever occur, and that is inside ourselves. For it is only until you change your inner thoughts, beliefs, and patterns that anything OUTER can ever manifest for you. It really IS just that simple.
But HOW you ask? Well the first step is just to be aware - as Mary Morrissey is famous for saying, "Notice what you're noticing". Pay attention, show up in your own life, take control of your vessel, steer your own ship and forget what everyone else is doing with theirs. This is not to say we don't still care and love others, to the contrary. It just means that we will now no longer focus on trying to change anyone else's course with Destiny, just our own. And through doing THIS, it WILL affect those around you and benefit them as well. Because when you get better, everything else around you starts to as well, or else it just drops away from your life. As you elevate your vibration and start to live a more authentic life, The Universe has no choice but to correspond to what you are putting out. That is an irrefutable Universal Truth that cannot be deviated from. It's simply science.
This topic of the senselessness of trying to change others came up in a friend's feed today that I got a little too carried away with expressing to a friend of HERS in the Comment section, so obviously it's a huge topic on my mind and in my life that continues to manifest. Being back in Ohio for my extended stay currently has brought me back to this recurring issue with my family and just people in general that The Universe insists I solve now if I am to move forward. And I am. I am confronting this and putting it out there, and so wanted to share it with all of you.
I have blamed others and played victim my whole entire life up until the past 5 yrs, when I set out on my own to live in my 1956 renovated vintage camper "Hammy" after Husband #3 booted me to the curb after less than 6 months of being married. "What was WRONG with me?", I asked myself yet again, after I thought I had conquered this pattern in my life once or twice before. 'Why does this keep showing up in my life?' I was genuinely baffled. It took me over 3 decades to learn that I was truly the only one that was attracting everything that was happening to me. What we reap, we sow, what we put out, comes back, like an echo. This comes as a blow to us all, it's a tough one to swallow, I get it, I was no different. But the faster you can get this thru your head, the quicker you will evolve, trust me on this one.
My past 5 1/2 yrs has shown me, over excruciatingly painful encounters and experiences, my true self and inner strength. It has given me a love and appreciation for myself now that I never would have experienced if I had stayed in my comfort zone. Did I enjoy those experiences? No. No one likes bad juju coming down on them, ever. But unless we get out there and do battle with it, instead of lying down and admitting defeat before we've ever even begun, then we will just flat out never know what our lives could have been.
I couldn't see the role I was playing in my own life to attract to me exactly the opposite of what I wanted, so how could I any longer blame my parents, or ANYONE for that matter for not being able to do the same? We can't "point out" or change anyone else's behavior, that is up to them to want to motivate and really make the effort to change, and most people don't. They remain stuck forever in their patterns and comfort zones because of everything we have been programmed and taught to believe. The paradox is that you cannot see or realize any of this until you break free from it by raising your consciousness. And Society and the media and our families, and our jobs and our friends do a really good job of keeping us from doing that.
So just notice what you're noticing in your own lives people, and start to evoke a change, just a tiny one at first, no big whoop. They say it takes 30 days to change a habit, 60 days to make it a new pattern, and 90 days to make it a lifelong habit. So what's one thing you wish you could change about your life right now? What's one tiny thing, baby step you can do today, to get there?
Then just do that. And keep doing that. Baby steps turn into big steps, and pretty soon you'll look behind you and see how far you've stepped. I have. But then I look in front of me and see how far I have yet to travel on my life's journey and it makes me happy and excited now, filled with wonder and joy and peace and gratefulness and a fine sense of adventure to boot! :)
I still have a bad day here and there, we all do and we will all continue to. Buddha says, "To live is to suffer". But I now no longer dread living, look at it as a chore or an obligation, cry all the time and am fearful every moment of what will become of me. I have kicked a lifetime of sadness, regret, and depression without meds for over 5 yrs now (with the exception of MMJ of course). And it all happened because I reprogrammed my way of thinking and believing in myself and my reality that I have created around me.
I wish you all a very blessed new year, and that you will count those blessings everyday. For always remember that no matter how bad you think you have it, there is always always ALWAYS someone out there that is having a WAY worse one than you, so be kind. Just love everyone. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no man, and we become what we eat, say, think, do, see, and where we go. So turn left today. Or right. Or go straight. Or turn around completely. See where life leads you. Change is good, Caveman. Change is essential for the survival of the species. Adapt or die, ya know?
I will leave you all with my most favorite quote ever, by a highly evolved woman whom I admire deeply, Marianne Williamson. This hangs on one of my cabinets in Hammy, and I look at it often:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?" Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others won't feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
